Stop Telling Everybody Your Goals and Dreams
A wise man once said “There will always be haters that’s the way it is hater ‘dudes’ marry hater ‘chics’ and have hater kids” ~Kanye West. Of course, I changed the lyrics because this is a family blog, but you get the point. Haters gonna hate that is just life.
Some people have been hating so long they don’t even know how to give a compliment. Haters will look for a negative outcome to every positive situation. They look at the glass half empty instead of half full. This energy can be very toxic when it comes to accomplishing goals and living life in general. I am a firm believer in speaking things to fruition. Train the mind and the body will follow.
Besides haters, you have your doubters. They don’t necessarily hate on your dreams and goals, they just don’t believe you can accomplish them. This person could be your own spouse, best friend or even parents. There’s nothing wrong with the doubters because some people will only believe it when they start to see it. But if someone you’re close with is constantly doubting you and discouraging your ideas, it might be best to stop telling them your plans.
Start surrounding yourself with positive energy. This is extremely crucial when it comes to being successful. You want to network with people who don’t judge and hate when you say things like “I just got a new job promotion” or “I just paid off my car loan” etc… People who can give constructive criticism without throwing underhanded compliments. Your frienemies (the friend that’s really a rival) will hit you with the “I’m just saying” after every positive piece of news you share with them. For example: John says “I think I want to start a pet grooming company” and his frenemy Eric says “what if a pet has rabies and gives it to another pet and then the owner decides to sue you? How are you going to handle that? Idk about this side business, I’m just sayinnnnn”. People will project their insecurities and doubts onto you. They’re just doubters and haters because they don’t have the courage to chase their own dreams or pursue goals. They want you to do good, but not better than them. That negative energy is draining, it literally zaps at your spirit. You don’t want to associate with this contagious atmosphere if you want good things out of life.
Live your life and be content with yourself. You will never please haters who lack ambition. Your path is different, your drive is different and therefore your goals are different. Everybody won’t understand your decisions and they will always have something to say, but don’t let the negativity discourage you. During your journey of accomplishing goals like getting degrees, starting businesses, getting married, buying homes etc.. You will notice not everyone will be happy for you. You remind haters of the person that didn’t quit when times got tough. The person that didn’t remain stagnant throughout the years. The person who doesn’t complain all day about what everyone else around them has. You have to continue to speak things into existence and also be conscious of the people you’re speaking to. “If they don’t know your dreams, then they can’t shoot them down” ~ JCole